How to be a great boy friend !!
I will not tell you to call her by her name, she will like that or to stop hanging out with other girls, she will be jealous
these things will put all the relations in the same form, which no body likes
although you doesn't have to be a female trapping device either, definitely this will get on her nerves
whatever .. most of you men know these things better than me
I'll speak here about the core of a mature healthy relationship
first of all you make sure she wants you to be her man then ....... you
1.care about showing your love in great ways every now and then, girls need to feel loved almost all the time, unlike you men, you would rather prefer to feel respected and trusted
2.
be trust worthy, loyal, and honest with her regarding every thing,
specially your feelings, if you feel you need more space just tell her
so when you say you love her or miss her, she is sure it's just so deep
.. compliment her sincerely not just to make her feel good
3. be spontaneous and even when she knows you well you can still be unpredictable, surprise her
4.
involve her in your world, introduce her to your friends, opened up to
her like you never did, be your self .. choose to spend your time with
her
this will make her feel she is loved and trusted and very valuable for
you, that you are comfortable with her more than any one, that she has a
great effect on your life, and that you really appreciate her
presence
5. respect her, don't make her feel inferior by any way instead you always make her feel smarter than many of her colleagues
6. you never ever talk about her in a bad way even when she is really acting insanely
7. don't control or possess her or try to change here .. trust her, give her space and allow her to have male friends
8.
be supportive, available, listen, show interest in the things that she
tells you, try to be understanding most of the time, Some times you
wouldn't be able to know what is going on up there, I admit there is no
man on earth who can do this all the time, it's ok
9. never go silent and never make her worry about some feeling that you hid, be too opened to her, never tell her (Let's talk later) or anything like that
10. make sure she knows you need romance, and if you are sensitive and deep cause most of girls don't expected that for a man
11. Make her feel safe to be her self with you without restrictions
12. carry her burden without abusing her independency
13.
be aware of here defects and most importantly of yours too, understand
when some -ve feelings get into any of you, speak it out to regain your clear feelings back
love is based on very clear understand of what the other person is really like
people
say that love is blind .. love is not blind, lust is blind but love is not blind
you need to be knowing what happens when she gets disappointed, you know why
give your relation about 36 h and I guarantee you will disappoint her
she need to know what happens when you get angry cause give your relation 24 h and i guarantee she will make you very angry
14. be honest not just because you decided to do so, but because you feel free and because you don't need to hide any thing
15. notice the slightest change at her details she would love that
16. care to get out the best of her, help her be a better person and a better looking female, don't just say I like all about here but there is 20% that I don't like and I'm going to change
I don't want to get
you depressed but both of your basic personality has been set
so just help here to get the best of her and make sure you will still love her just the way she is, even if she didn't change
most probably you don't want to miss around with her self image and get down her performance .. that's not love anyway
17. make her feel pretty and sexy, by doing these little fine touches or fine looks to her body
18. be great at sex, improvise, know her body, love it because it is her body not because it is the greatest looking, this will make here feel safe with you, care about the person behind the body cause you know, the body is going to fade
19. be a real MAN .. regarding your character and taking responsibilities and not just regarding your body features which is important too
REMEMBER
you may not be able to do 50% of all this, No big deal who is perfect, your imperfections are what makes you special
LOVE IS AN
ACT OF THE WILL .. that's what we always tend to forget
you can have whatever -ve feelings towards each other but still you are in love
a relation is about fully knowing each other and fully accepting each other the way you are
just be sure you both KEEP TALKING about every slight detail in the relation specially the -ve ones cause let me tell you, if there is little things that bugs you in the beginning now, when you be together this bug will grow and be like a green eyed monster and if you ask any kid they will tell you there is no reasoning with the monster
Love is not jealous, not easily feels threatened and insecure, leaving little freedom for the other person outside the relation
speak using your brain 1st and your heart 2nd
guys fall quicker, gets over it quicker
women fall slower and deeper and get over it slower and deeper
and just when she starts caring for you, where are you !! ohhh you are gone
love is not about you see some one and your heart start beating and then you can't eat, you can't sleep, you can't drink .. thinking if that's love you will die soon
WE GROW IN LOVE WE DON'T JUST FALL IN LOVE
and LOVE
IS NOT BLIND
you must pass on 2 important tests
1. test of time
2. test of -ve circumstances
remember
you don't start to love until you give and give and give... and when the thrill
is gone you keep on giving and giving and giving... and when it hurts, give some more
tough .. isn't it !!
cause if
you go in a relationship saying what can I get
then you'll get a dust of broken
hearts
be aware that hate is not the opposite of love
SELFISHNESS is the opposite of love
